Who Gets to Decide What's Negative?
- Marchelle Wilson
- Jan 15
- 2 min read
Continuing the Conversation: Episode 143
If this episode resonated with you, consider this your gentle invitation to sit with the feelings it may have stirred. Labels can linger long after they’re spoken, shaping how we move, speak, and show up in the world. But awareness gives us a choice.
As you move through your day, notice the moments when you feel the urge to shrink, explain, or dim yourself. Instead of resisting those feelings, meet them with curiosity. Ask what part of you is asking to be honored—not hidden.
Authenticity isn’t always comfortable, but it is freeing. And when we choose to define ourselves instead of accepting inherited narratives, we create space for others to do the same. This is how individual truth becomes collective healing.
🌱3 Ways to Navigate Your Feelings
1. Pause Before You Personalize the Label
When a word or stereotype triggers discomfort, resist the urge to immediately absorb it as truth. Ask yourself: Is this describing me, or is it revealing someone else’s limitations? Creating that pause helps separate your identity from someone else’s projection.
Affirmation: I am not defined by someone else’s interpretation of me. I choose clarity over assumption.
2. Reframe the Narrative With Intention
Instead of fighting a label, redefine it on your own terms. What someone calls “too much” might be emotional honesty. What’s labeled “weird” could be originality. Reframing allows you to move from defense to ownership, turning discomfort into clarity.
✨ Affirmation: What makes me different is not a flaw—it is a reflection of my truth.
3. Anchor Yourself in Community and Self-Reflection
Processing these feelings alone can magnify shame. Journaling, creative expression, or conversations with people who see you clearly can help you ground yourself in truth. Community doesn’t erase the feelings—but it reminds you that you don’t have to navigate them in isolation.
✨ Affirmation: I am supported, seen, and allowed to be fully myself—without apology.
🌱Learning to navigate the feelings that surface when we’re labeled or misunderstood isn’t about toughening up—it’s about softening inward. When we pause, reframe, and stay rooted in self-trust and community, we reclaim the authority over our own stories. The goal isn’t to erase discomfort, but to listen to it without letting it decide who we are. What once felt negative can become an invitation to live more honestly, more fully, and more aligned with our truth.
Challenge: What small joy can you find today?
thought • thinkers!
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My primary goal is to educate and inspire new thought while stating the cause, the effect, and a possible solution while having fun and being transparent.
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